The Four Kinds of Men

by Aug 23, 2011

Dane Ortlund says there are four kinds of men:

  1. Soft exterior, soft interior. Effeminate inside and out, top to bottom. Yuck.
  2. Hard exterior, soft interior. Posers. Macho. Insecure, covering it with how much they can bench.
  3. Hard exterior, hard interior. Genuinely strong, willing to lay down their life for Jesus and family, but earnest to make sure everyone knows that about them. Not only wants to be strong in actuality but needs to be strong in image. Stiff not only in conviction but in demeanor.
  4. Soft exterior, hard interior. Rock solid, responsible, risk-taking, calls heresy heresy, calls error error, willing to take shots for the good of the team … but all soaked in a gentle demeanor, seasoned with grace, someone the guy struggling with homosexuality would confide in.

According to Ortlund, only the fourth reflects biblical manhood:

Paul said, “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men” (1 Cor 16:13), and he said repeatedly to do all things with gentleness (Gal 5:23; Eph 4:2; 2 Tim 2:25). A mature oak tree is immovable when the storms rage against it, but it’s also beautiful, and invites shelter to others. Isn’t that what gospel men should be?